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What it's like to sacrifice your dreams for your parents

June 5, 2014, 10:26 pm | This story has an Influence Score of 1054

By riazhussain

Traveling is exploring life. As you travel on the roads, you meet different people and discover newer aspects of life. If you are searching for stories then, traveling seldom disappoints you. Yesterday, when I was jaunting to a neighboring city, a guy gave me a ride. He was wearing red dotted T-shirt. As I moved in, he pushed up his sunglasses, looked behind, smiled and said, ‘Hi! I am Omar. How do you do?’ He had a slim buddy on the front seat next to him, so I got onto the back seat.

As he steered the car ahead, I tried to direct the conversation beyond the customary exchange of greetings and when, after traveling for 90 minutes, we reached our destination, I had discovered an extraordinary quality in this guy—an ability to sacrifice.

The first thing that I noticed about my 22-years-old caravaneer was his accent. It reminded me of Prof. David Crystal’s contention that language reflects our social identity. The modern linguist argues, ‘Who are you? How old are you? Where are you from? What do you do? What are you doing now? We would only have to speak, to provide our interrogator with innumerable clues about our personal history and social identity’. So, in the light of the clues his accent provided me about his background, I asked him if he had spent time in the UK. He agreed and then with his typical UK twang, told me about his life at Buckinghamshire University.   

‘I was stubborn a bit when I was a kid, he told me, ‘and it was my habit that if I wanted to have something, I would have it at every cost. I wanted to become a commercial pilot from the start. My dad and my uncle worked as travel agents and traveled a lot, so their business gave me love for flying. I wanted to go into the flying profession and be a pilot all my life. That’s why I studied airport airline management for two years at Bucks Flying School in Buckinghamshire’.

During the course of his study, he had to meet pilots.

 These interactions with these individuals further powered his passion for flying and inspired him to go for  a Commercial Pilot License and Instrument Rating (CPL & IR). So, these days, our interviewee is a student pilot at the Multan Flying Club, in Pakistan.

Before joining the club, he did considerable research on the Internet about the best flying schools. Flying is one of his passions and becoming a pilot; one of his dreams.

Talking about the skills one develops as a pilot, he explained, ‘Although , the job involves risks, you see the world in a different way. The view one gets from the altitude is absolutely amazing'.

'If you are a commercial pilot, you are responsible for the people who are sitting behind you. If you are not responsible enough, you end up killing yourself and another two hundred people. You become a time keeper. You become a helpful person and start seeing life professionally. You become quality oriented and safety oriented’.

I asked him, ‘If you won the lottery tonight, would you still keep at it, and why?’. His reply contained a sublime logic which surprised me. He raised his voice and said, ‘I will splash away the money. The money is not going to stay with me all my life but better personal skills help you all your life. If you are on the road and got nothing but personal skills you will get somewhere in life’.

Flying is just one of his passions and this passion has its limitations. He has a great sense of duty towards his parents. He said, ‘Well, to be honest, I am the oldest son of my parents. What I am trying to do is to support them because obviously they have done quite enough for me and I think it’s time for me to give them something back. Whatever work they ask me to do I will do for them? My parents are my top priority and no one else’. So, his stubbornness stops when his parents’ wishes and needs start.

Our interviewee will soon become a commercial pilot. But, he does not intend to take a job as a pilot.  His parents have different plans for him and this young man who was a stubborn child in the past is going to sacrifice his dreams for his parents. He says, ‘I am the oldest son of my parents. The responsibility is on me. My parents told me that CPL would support you but due to the risks involved, better go for business. If my dad asks me to become a travel agent or start some other business, I will go into that business’.

Not taking the job as a pilot does not mean his CPL studies will go to the wall. He points out that flying has made him a responsible and punctual person. He says, ‘Becoming a pilot makes you more mature. My parents know if I get something out of this, I am going to be a different person. I have learned quite a lot. Three years ago I was a different person than I am now'.

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